Sunday, January 30, 2011

How do you know?

To answer the question: Someone said, if you can imagine him/her 40 years down the road, pants down, sitting on the toilet bowl reading newspaper. And still can smile. He/she is the one.

I personally feel that you know its the right one
when everyday is such a happy day
even fights/unhappy days seem so sweet
you can't get your mind off that person
you close your eyes you see him/her
you open your eyes you see him/her
you save up, and plan to go out with him/her
you burn down your entire forest for him/her
you're so proud of him/her, you want everyone to know
you want to hold his/her hands and dance under the stars
you plan surprises and everything he/she says is cute and silly
his/her presence makes unhappiness/weariness go away
you are willing to suffer, to make him/her happier
you love him/her the same
even when his/her hair is like shit
and even when he/she got pimples all over his/her face

everywhere u go, you think of that person
everything u do, you think of that person
everything u eat, you think of that person
every breath u take, you think of that person
every sms that comes, you wish its that person
you worry for him/her
you wanna protect him/her
you get jealous of him/her
you wanna spend your last cent on/with him/her
you dream of a married life with him/her
having kids, growing old together, holding hands in heaven

When that person leaves you
he/she scars you so bad
you lose your sanity, dignity and ability to lead a normal life
It hurts worse than any physical pain could give
The poison eats you relentlessly
and there is NO antidote
You lost meaning in life
and realises that you've finally loved somebody
more than you loved yourself
GG!

That person is the One, the Right One
This person is extremely hard to find
May be once in a lifetime
Lacking any of the points above
does not qualify him/her

HOWEVER

1. this person may be the Right One for you
2. you may not be the Right One for him/her
3. you may have to wait even years to realize that.
But would he/she be worth the wait?

Those who have met the one will know
what the hell I'm talking about.

A Chance To Do It Right.

Someone just told me. Never try to convince someone to love you or to make someone stay who wants to leave you. To which I remained silent.

Am I trying to "fix" someone who's making me unhappy? Are I silently sabotaging something that's pretty darn good for myself?

If we can consider relationships to be the ground from which we grow the rest of our lives, we can see how our reactions to LOVE relationships restructure all aspects of our lives. Is it possible to pull away from what John Mayer calls "heartbreak warfare" ?